Sorry you are going true this oo, but what first came to mind when i read this is: He spits on you and you take it, Abeg if he ever does such again, you too spit on him, infact after spitting on him, carry water and pour ontop his head too. It's not too late to call the cops, I did not know that it was considered battery. I had nowhere to go but my brother took me in for a couple weeks till I got on welfare and found low income housing. Do with that information what you will. No woman with self-respect would ever allow anyone to spit in her face. The issue I was wrestling with was giving a gift to this church that had treated us with contempt for so long. ICTV back in celebration of Curt's bday with the Spitting Challenge! WebNo woman with self-respect would ever allow anyone to spit in her face. I don't forgive people when they spit in my face. Instead of being thankful for the gift we gave, he once more demonstrated utter disrespect and contempt for us. That's all I've been saying to myself going back and forth on this thread . Adding a motor spits in the face of all of those goals. But soon after our dedication, this man stood before a large convention of several thousand people and sneered at our new facility. It's only going to get worse. I have been married to my hubby for 5 years now.For the past two years anytime we have disagreement or quarrel,he would spit on my face.I have had a heart to heart discussion with him to stop this disgraceful habit and he promised to stop but still did it four days ago. Personally, for me, spitting in someone's face and calling them a cunt is as bad as punching them in the face. He appealed the conviction, arguing that spitting did not constitute an assault, but the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals disagreed. It just gets worse, so get out before it does. Help me become rock-solid and unwavering in my love for others, including those who havent treated me too nicely. To ensure that this goal was accomplished, their own fists became their weapons of abuse. I dont necessarily think it matters what the context was but for some reason Im able to dismiss the behavior. Did that conflict reveal that your love for them was consistent, unwavering, unshaken, and unaffected or that you have a fickle love that is quickly turned off when people dont respond to you the way you wished they would? WebWe are back and stronger than ever - took some time to reflect and hear from God! WOW . The same Holy Spirit who lived in Jesus now lives in me and just as the Spirit of God empowered Jesus to love everyone consistently, now the Holy Spirit empowers me to do the same! And now the Lord was telling me to sow a large gift into this same church? You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. female I think nearly everyone has felt taken advantage of and spit on at some point or another. Notice that it wasnt just a few who spit in his face that night; the Bible says, they spit in his face. The word they refers to all the scribes and elders who were assembled for the meeting that night. I would make a domestic claim whenever he does spit on you. Colleague 1: Yes. Nov 10, 2011. Well if he is real violent that might not be a good idea. Just as the Spirit of God empowered Jesus to love people consistently, regardless of what they did or didnt do, the Holy Spirit can empower you to do the same. Let me tell you something. Cases Anonymous. Also, that is assault. It spits in the face of everyone who judges people without knowing them. Imagine how your kids are affected, if my dogs are still like this, years later. is breaking up the only way to make that point? 249Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland. It started with shouting, then evolved into spitting in my face during an argument, then to throwing things around the room, then to throwing things at me and then physically attacking me. This was an extremely humiliating scene! Please leave him before his behavior escalates. Your husband spits on you,says you look like poo, pours your stew into the drain and damages d door when angry? The only reason that would be okay is if it was something you agreed upon before it happening, like in a sexual context. Was he so unappreciative that you felt as if hed spit in your face? Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. 1) Ole Miss clearly lacks institutional control -- it spit in the face of the rules and was unabashed about doing so, daring someone 2) The Toronto Raptors do not merely spit in the face of prosperity. Wishing you the best, my friend. Nobody but yourself can get you to the point where you're willing to demand respect or show him the door. Then forgive those people, and decide to love them the way Jesus loved those who wronged Him! But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience. @ op you are the only one that knows where the shoe pinches.am even suprised you're saying you're in england and still you dont know what to do.is there not cops that you can report to for psychological assault?do you have kids?if you do is that the type of environment you want your kids to grow in where they see daddy spits on mummy at will.you can cover up for your husband for as long as you care,when they grow to a state of knowing their left from their right,i bet you will have a lot of questions to answer.secondly am not sure you want your kids growing up in a house where they think its normal for men to spit on women.remember you are their model and they will do exactly what they see their father and mother do,you dont want your son to repeat what his uncivilized and animalistic father is doing.sit down in that pseudo marriage till he pours acid on you.shebi its still saliva on your face,he will soon upgrade.you've talked to him severally,your mom to has begged him and he hasn't changed and your number 6 is not telling you that he doesnt have any plan of changing.dont you realise that theres nothing permanent in life.its either the person gets better or worse..however if you choose to die being a mrs,there are finishing school for crude and unrefined men like your husband.you can take him there and or take him to a hospital for mental check up or report to the police if he spits on you again or stay in the marriage,endure whatever nonesense you see,raise children who will become animalistic and die there.shikena. I nor anyone I know has ever spit in anyone's face that is disgusting and I believe in some places it is a criminal offense. He will keep doing it as long as you let him. You are the CEO of your life. Talk About Family, Marriage and Relationships. I would have gone to a shelter if need be. 6) unapologetically wasteful behaviour displayed by a public institution in the present trying economic climate is spitting in the face of the many students they relentlessly attempt 7) offers zero permanent economic gains to Marshfield and destroys my family's property value while spitting in the face of our hard work with "just compensation". Today I want to ask You to help me love others just as consistently as You have loved me. Take action and make it stick, for your own well-being. So I guess unless it was somehow an absolute accident dump him. JavaScript is disabled. There is a lot to be said for a nice, kind, funny, sweet man who does not look like a catalogue model or a rock star and who thinks he is bloody lucky to have you. I don't know what to do anymore. Matthew 26:67,68 says, Then did they spit in his face, and buffeted him; and others smote him with the palms of their hands, saying, Prophesy unto us, thou Christ, Who is he that smote thee?. I picked up a phone, dialed 911 and let them tape the abuse over the phone. That's assault. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Joe Biden Spit in Your Face at the White House Correspondents' Dinner. Why? How could anyone say the gift we gave was puny? Colossians 1:28, 2023 Rick Renner Ministries. 3. They had lied about us, scoffed at us, and even prayed for our downfall. Wow!! Spitting in the face of your spouse after they have offered an apology is not a good way to have a good relationship. You deserve better than this. And remember, the men who were acting so hatefully toward Jesus were religious leaders! That's a goodbye and ghost a motherfucker thing. The pastor told his leaders, Look at this puny little check Pastor Rick gave us! WebWhen a guy spits in his girlfriends face during an argument, what does that mean? Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. Allow them to support you and your children at this time. Been getting it daily ,my wife is going thru some form of dementia I would say demon possesion.what she seeks to save she destroys, I'm ready for d That evening at the meeting, the local church I was visiting announced they would be starting a building program. They got me a job after I searched for months, allowed me visitation with my "kids", (that really kept my spirit alive during this time, because wouldn't you know it - after I found it was so difficult on my own, I started REGRETING having called the police on my ex)!!! Cherry did what she thought was best at the time, thinking her H would change. Humiliating Jesus with their spit and curses didnt satisfy the hatred of these men; they wouldnt be satisfied until they knew He had been physically maltreated. every day he gets off work he stops in a bar. They're no longer your boyfriend. But what hurt the most was that the pastor had put us down and publicly made fun of us in front of his staff and leadership. Forgive me for being on-again, off-again in my love. . So to the poster, why do you stay with him? Get up and calmly (as possible) walk out of the room because my gut reaction would be to either slap them or spit at them back, neither of which is Updated Dont be his verbal , Get out, and do it for your kids. How to respond when someone spits in your partner's face Look at self Answer (1 of 3): Smile and ask her to spit on other side. Its inclusive of rejection, isolation, and other forms of diminution and dismissal. [At-Tirmithi] So, if a husband treats his wife with content and despises her, especially if he did so by spitting on her face as mentioned in the question, then he was indeed wrong and sinful. Copyright IslamWeb 2023. And why me? I don't know, I'm just thinking outloud. He was choking me when the police came, and I remember whispering to him "I can't breathe". Writing that check was difficult, but once it was written, my heart simply flooded with joy because I had been obedient. The issue really wasnt the money, although we could have used the money ourselves at that moment. Intentionally spitting on another person is an offensive touching that rises to the level of simple assault, the three-judge panel wrote. It is also a show of weakness. What will you do if a guy spits on your mothers/ wifes face unprovoked? And what makes this entire scene even more amazing is that Malchus the servant whom Jesus had just healed was in all probability standing at the side of Caiaphas and watching it all happen! if (year < 1000) year+=1900 It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. reader, Heartbroken in love+, writes (10 July 2009): A . On a less formal note, it is also considered an incredibly dirty thing done only by the most vile scum. However, the amount the Lord put in my heart was significant. A I was truly deeply appalled and shocked. To put the seriousness of spitting into perspective, on the hierarchy of force used by security and law enforcement here it sits squarely in the realm of "put them down, hard, as quickly as possible". They hated Jesus and the anointing that operated through Him to such an extent that they voted to murder Him. The only thing is.please do not put yourself or your children in harm's way, while making your decision. It's like he doesn't know when to stop. Three questions (leaving aside the fact that as a straight woman I would have a husband, not a wife): Was it an accident? Have I done something rea I won't be surprised if some men come to this thread to ask OP what she did to provoke the man into spitting on her or to 'advice' her to be a good wife by being more submissive and prayerful and non complaining. I still get choked up remembering that day. Every time they spit on Him, they were spitting on the anointing. .. Dont be a doormat. Couldnt he have done any better than this? When I heard how he viewed the sizable gift Id given, I was quite shocked. I would like to know if my husband spit in my face to punish me (even though its nothing bad that I do) is it aloud in the Islam to do that, and if not aloud will he be punished. What a strange way to render thanks to One who had done so much for them! Dont be his verbal , physical punching bag. In that culture and time, spitting in ones face was considered to be the strongest thing you could do to show utter disgust, repugnance, dislike, or hatred for someone. var year=mydate.getYear() formal<---------------|-------------X-->informal. I understand you been with him for 5 years but even if you were with him for 20 years don't you feel you deserve better? +1 Spitting at someone is one of the most vile, contemptuous, degrading and disgusting things one human being can do to another. The police came, arrested him and I INSTANTLY became homeless. All rights reserved. So now that you have reported him to everyone and he has refused to get help or listen, what do you intend to do? reader, buckster12+, writes (10 July 2009): Already have an account? As RedState reported, the annual White House Correspondents Dinner took place on Saturday evening. I would spit at him back but then again that might provoke him to hurt you. 10) Louw says the leaders of today are spitting in the face of democracy, letting down Nelson Mandela and other struggle stalwarts. 2. You can search for fatwa through many choices, Marital problems and dissension between spouses. He has refused to go see a doctor for any kind of mood disorder, he took ritalin as a child and hated the side effects. Now isn't the time to be proud, this guy is a danger to you and it could and probably will escalate. I remember feeling as if I had been spit on and as the years passed, this same pastor spit on us many more times. Where does it come from?? I pulled my checkbook out of my pocket to write what I considered to be a sizable gift for this other church. However, in most countries of the world, spitting on someone, especially into the face, is seen as a rude and detestable act that portrays hatred, contempt or anger towards another human being. Dont lie; just hush. 12/18/2014 14:56. And one by one, each of these so-called spiritual leaders, clothed in their religious garments, walked up to Jesus and spit in His face! We're hosting a Reddit Talk Live event on Tuesday the 21st of September at 11am PST (2pm EDT/ 7PM GMT) with relationship expert Kerry Cohen, and we'd love for you to join us! for the Q&A section. He devoted the next part of his staff meeting to discussing all the things he didnt like about me and our church. I cannot respond to any comments. He's threatening to come up to my job. When I heard about this event, it hurt so badly that it cut deep into my heart. Walk out now. this morning. "Women teach men life and men teach women death." 15/04/2009 12:10. Thank you all. I worked and continued to be homeless, living in my car and showering at my now-husband's place, while I saved money for my own dwelling. Throughout that entire service, I argued with the Lord. You CAN do this. Is that long enough to trust him, does him spitting in my face just prove he still has no respect for me? It would be considered significant in any nation of the world. Lets be honest: there are many passive and subtle ways that That is the ultimate in disrespect. Therefore, you should endeavour to advise your husband and remind him of Allaah, and there is no harm if you seek the help of righteous and pious people to admonish him; it might be that he will take heed and stop behaving in such a manner. Forget the fact that he's good-looking and has a "presence" that attracts other women - that doesn't make him worth more, it actually makes him less of a keeper, because he'll think he can hold that over you to keep you in line, and he'll be more likely to cheat anyway. what to do? Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. by sylviaplath Sun Mar 27, 2016 4:02 am, by Smelljasmine Mon Mar 28, 2016 3:59 am, by sylviaplath Mon Mar 28, 2016 7:19 pm, by Smelljasmine Mon Mar 28, 2016 10:35 pm, by Smelljasmine Mon Apr 18, 2016 2:41 am, Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 3 guests. WOW . Thats abusive behaviour. Id respond exactly as if theyd hit me. A lot of the other answers read like theyre making excuses for abusers. No, out No I don't want them to, this is not normal behavior, I know that. Its seriously disgusting, and you should throw the whole man away. You know the options you have,weigh them and make moves asap! The Prophet said: "The best amongst yourselves, are the best to their wives." Because that is what will happen if you stay. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? It is THE most disrespectful thing he could think of doing to you. kulyie: If you know your worth,if you know how inestimably valuable you are you will not reduce yourself to a level where anybody will spit on you.its obvious you lack Where there is a will, there's a way. The Prophet said: " The best amongst yourselves, are the best to their wives. " He just couldn't stop using drugs and abusing me. Make it happen. Come join the discussion about love, romance, health, behavior, conflict resolution, care, and more! I'm trying to imagine I've never seen her get THAT mad during an argument. Well, of course, first, I'd wipe off my face. Then, I'd quit talking to But first they wanted to take some time to personally make sure He suffered before He died. In one of the nations most grotesque events, supposedly unbiased journalists gather to cosplay as Hollywood stars and give each other awards for partisan reporting. One scholar notes that there could have been one hundred or more men in this crowd! The next time someone treats you this way, how do you think you should respond to him or her? Yeah, that's not something you let go. Spitting in your face as his wife is sooooooo disrespectful its not even funny. its a slum bar, i mean. I know that, but when it's happening that's what goes through my mind. No apology, no acknowledgement of it being a horrible thing. 99.9% of our arguments or misunderstandings because we dont seem to communicate well. For instance, when we dedicated our church building the first church to be built in sixty years in our city it was a moment of great rejoicing. In the end, it was just talk. when your spouse spits in your face when your spouse spits in your face when your spouse spits in your face In the end, it was worth it. After spitting on Him, they each doubled up their fists and whacked Him violently in the face! And why is it better for me to do it myself rather than reach out to him?
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